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Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be filled with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, funds, age dissimilarity, faith education, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the intention of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.

Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking affairs. I suppose mainly though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.

Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the catalyst?

Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.

Avoidance, sadly this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown distantly, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.